Cutting something off or trying to stop a behavior usually does not work out smoothly. The reason to that is we subtract without addition and thus create a void in our, movement, thoughts and feelings
One way to remove the unwanted habit or trait without creating a void is to replace it consciously with another.
- Every time a craving for a food arrives, we do some pushups or any movement that fits. This one works very fast.
- every time a flinch out of fear happens, repeat the situation but focus on breath continuation and chosen movement. This one takes its time.
- Every time a dark thought comes along, Instead of dwelling on it, raise the thought of what can I learn from this ? This one is a deep change method. Replacing patterns of thought inside us with others is a true metamorphosis, capable of incredible shifts:
Change “I don’t know how to do this” to “Lets see how we start”
Change”That is too hard for me” to “What out of this I can do now and grow from it”
Change”I can‘t fix that” to “”What can I learn from this”
Change”This really is terrible and frustrating” to “If I don’t like it, what am I doing to change it”
Physically: “I don’t know how to get out of that hold” to “Where in my body I am free”
Physically “I am fatigued, I am lost” to “Just continue to breathe and move with whatever comes”
Change is constant but its direction is not. Make your change aware and make it yours.