How to explain fear to your child

There is a great desire in a parent to protect their kid. You want him to avoid all your mistakes and to be always happy and successful. One of the things we try to avoid is scaring our kid and many try to create a reality that excludes fear and danger.

Here is a suggestion that excludes exclusion.

Speak to your child of the full spectrum of emotion and feeling and tell them all emotion is natural. There is no need to feel shame of a thought or desire and fear is simply a natural appreciation of life and a tool just like anything else in their awareness. Let them know that they have thoughts but the thoughts do not have them. They have a mind but they are the control of it and not controlled by it.

Fear is a needed part of life to balance out our other emotions and to serve us as a guide and stimulant.

Fear is a tool honed by nature through eons of existence and as humans we have the minute task of letting it help us on our journey.

Fear helps us relax our muscles and let go of unneeded mass and tension in our frame.

Fear releases energy into our bloodstream when it is needed.

Fear changes the perception of time in our minds and if you explain and play with your child in slow motion and in growing speeds and changing movements he will release the perception of freeze and learn that he can shift gears inside and out with the aid of fear and later on even without it.

Fear is a birth of reason and also of the release of it’s hold on us. Talk with your child of your embrace with fear and let him know we are all dealing with it and not dealing with it at the same time. Let him know we are operating in several channels and fear lets us unmask ourselves and in that lies our growth into whole people. Not brave, not afraid, just alive.