To learn to move with the right amount of tension in your arms you can use a wall and a friend. Have the friend (the wall is already standing) stand and fall on his front or back or sides. Work first on pushing yourself off him using him as leverage and support but work so you don’t move him from his place to learn measure. Now work so you push him away as you reach for the ground and now work so your path will not change during the fall and he will be moved from your way. It is important to decide if you want to move yourself out of the way or the obstacle or both and work with honesty with what your senses tell you. This work can show you how you tense and position yourself when you want to push something away from you and when you want to move yourself and as you are falling you will need to relax to be able to accomplish the drill. Pay attention to your breathing and learn to move when your breath is held as well. Learning to do this will aid in your everyday calm and in difficult situations.
Three things to consider in this drill:
1 Sense through your hands and body where the partner or wall is easy to push off (tensed/hard/right angle) and where it is easy to push (relaxed/ cavity and so on) these things change from minute to minute so don’t assume what worked before will work again and sometimes it will be easy to push the relaxed more than the tense because it is too relaxed and looses the base of the alignment more than it is possible to recover.
2 Notice where your eyes rest when you approach the body and the fear of contact is present and work to relax the focus of the eyes so you see more and more clearly.
3. Work with your eyes closed and see how the rest of the senses get more awareness and allow this input to come when you open your eyes again.
Do the work.