1. Keep breathing and using just what needs to be used
2. when you make contact avoid pushing or giving any type of support and just feel the movement you are receiving.
3. Let the person finish his move and just add to it. Avoid breaking or stopping him in any way.
Start with just the one and watch and feel the movement as you move away. Follow by keeping contact with him without adding any pressure or guidance and finish with adding something to affect and control your partner or partners no matter where the contact is.