To help a partner relax the tension in his striking limbs and body have him attack you over and over again and you simply move away and place the stick in the way of his movement. As he accumulates the impact on his hard surfaces such as bones and joints he will learn to naturally let the joints move to protect the body (and let the breath and body move him) and as he is contacted on the soft tissue he will learn to maintain the minimum level of tension to do the work in his muscles and tendons. Be nice and smile it hurts less when you are hit in the head that way because the muscles are less tense…
