Place your hand on your partner in an open palm fashion and check that you are comfortable and avoiding spreading yourself. Tense your body from the toes to the hips and relax a few times letting the breath lead the movement and feel where the body naturally wants to go. Keep in mind also to touch your partner and avoid leaning on him or pressing him in any way. You loose your awareness and freedom this way. Now add the movement to the tensing and relaxing and connect it to your arm and palm to redirect your partner or change his alignment. Work from all sides of the person and include breath holding in this drill to learn to release the fear and tension of sudden contact.
Have your partner come and walk into your open hand or fist as you hold it in front of you and than to the sides and back and exhale the tension that comes from this contact. Start with your eyes closed.
Continue with your partner or partners coming to hit you or move you toward a chosen destination like the trunk or a car and you use your breath and tension wave first in full tension and as the awareness comes to the surface in a more economic fashion to redirect and control the situation to your survival.
Control of others can only blossom from control of self. There is no control without awareness and all things from humility to perception come from it. It is the beginning and the end. Pay attention.