Here is a simple loop for getting what you want. That is when you figure out what you want or your wife tells you what you want 🙂
First: Find out what is the right thing to do.
Second Start doing it
Third: Try to do it better
Four: Go back to First as all things and you as well are changed.
As easy as breathing as you take things one at a time.
Someone comes to hit you.
First and second need to work together or in other words think on the go (Just this could be a whole book):Consider the situation as you breathe and on the go ..
Move most of you out of the way leaving one limb behind to avoid drawing the partner or actual attacker to where you are NOW and to be able to contact him and deliver a quiet word.
Third: repeat the drill or try to use less in your next encounters.
Fourth: Try to note the attacker before he or she or they start actualizing their intention and don’t be there.