Telling tension

Have a partner hold you in some way using both force and intention and in this hold or movement keep breathing and tense and relax each leg in turn and then each shoulder and arms in turn. Feel which of both pairs is more inclined to move during the relax phase of the drill and with the breath start the movement from there. Repeat the drill many times and in each time change but a bit of the drill in movement and in the tension.
Avoid making the mistake in technique people make when they try to rely on this crutch as we change each breath in the map of tension and movement which creates our posture and movement.
Example: Your head and neck is wedged in the armpit of your partner and your spine is somewhat bent downward. his other hand is pressing into your kidney and you want to go home and eat some schnitzel… You tense and relax each limb and connection to the main body in turn spreading your awareness in all of you and releasing the stuck feeling that grows from such contacts. Your feel the arm naturally rising from the elbow gathering and extending his arm pressing on your kidney and in this open door you extend your opposite leg affecting his knee so he feels his mortality and discards frivolous thoughts of controlling others until he gathers his own wits.