Your attacker brings his fist to your face and you raise your arm as well.
A loud noise is heard behind you and you turtle your neck and freeze
A person on the street curses you and you answer in kind.
If we are nice only to the people who are nice to use we give them power over our behavior and perception.
The same can be said about a confrontation. If you are answering a question (will this fist impact or a verbal “Are you stupid” ) you will always be late.
Work instead on making choices. Start small on awareness to little things such as breathing and your own body. You will find with daily practice that there will be no big choices when the small ones are self made and not reflections of what is around you. Drills for this will be forthcoming.
OR in different words 🙂
Let’s say an attacker brings his fist to your face and you raise your arm as well. Or you hear a loud noise behind you, and you pull in your neck and freeze. Or a person on the street curses you and you answer in kind. These kinds of things happen quite regularly, but if we react automatically, and are only nice to those who are nice to us, then we give those who are not nice, power over our behavior and perception.
The same can be said about any confrontation. If we ask ourselves “will his guy hit me, or is he going to tell me “you’re stupid,” we will always be late. Instead, we ought to work on making choices. That means we need to start by bringing our awareness to little things, such as breathing and the sensations in our bodies. We will find that with daily practice, there will be no big choices to make, as long as these small ones are clearly made. This way, we stop being only reflections of what is happening around us. Drills for this will be forthcoming.
The Martial Art of Walking 